Psychology of Cancer: Stage 5, Resentment
In continuing our series with the psychology of cancer and the 14 stages associated with it, I think resentment (stage 5) is one of the most important ones to cover.
Flower Society describes the resentment stage as a time when there are “hidden feelings of bitterness, resentment and sense of having been unjustly treated by certain significant others are part of the emotional complexity of the situation.”
Resentment at some point in time is normal to feel, however it is not okay to sit with it for too long. Resentment is a very low vibrating emotion. It is not a healing emotion. It is not an emotion that will serve you anything good.
It is in your hands to feel it and then move through it. Why? Because resentment is a sin Jesus wants us to put these feelings in the past.
Once in one of my prayers about terminal illness I said this, “I thank you that by your blood, victory is gained over every fiery dart of the enemy. I repent of any sins and ask that unforgiveness, bitterness, and resentment be cleansed from my heart. I snatch all legal rights of the enemy to invade my body.” I still stand by this emotion being one that stems from the enemy, and we need to push it out of our hearts.
The bible says that holding bitterness and resentment will only allow offense and disappointment to take root in your heart. Let’s take it one step further: constant feelings of resentment may hinder your body from completely healing.
Resentment is natural, it’s normal, but it’s something you need to actively work on because it’s not meant to stay.
Life is so beautiful, so wonderful, even with tragic news… always look for silver linings and don’t let low vibrating emotions pull you down. Fight for yourself, that means letting go.