Choose those Who Choose You!

Choose those Who Choose You! “Some friends don’t help but a true friend is closer than your own family.” Proverbs 18:24

This bible verse is absolute truth and in my cancer journey, I have experienced and witnessed this truth and more. People you expect would be there are not and those you never thought to show up. At this point in my life I want to choose people who choose me. After facing and dealing with a cancer diagnosis and seeing the devasting aftermath up close, I really don’t want to invest any-more time with those that have other priorities or an agenda in my life.

Building a true friendship requires transparency and truth. A safe space where we give room to see each other’s hearts. You may think this is idealistic or naive, but this is how I know God intended it for us to build a true friendship. Building truth requires us to recognize the need to invite God into our relationship and ask for His love, guidance, and truth to guide our path. This is where we are genuine, transparent, honest where we speak our truths and words of encouragement. Where we lift each other up sealed with love trust and prayer.

Here is what to look for:

*Choose to be authentic, the right person will love you for who you are.

*Choose to go to where you are celebrated not tolerated

*Choose who you talk to

*Choose who you get advice from

*Choose who you give information to

*Choose who you spend your time with

*Choose those who support you

*Choose those who value you

*Choose those who respect you

*Choose those who push you to be your best

*Choose those who choose you over and over without fear or hesitation

*Choose to be the kind of friend you desire to have

*Find your tribe and don’t let go

I sincerely hope you find these suggestions helpful and if you find yourself surrounded by people who don’t choose you that’s ok. Bless them and send them love, then go after those where you feel you are home. I pray that as we move into the new year God will bring more of those people into our lives and shape us into becoming the kind of friend we desire to have.